I am a person who has suffered at the hands of my ex-in-laws and law just because I am belonging to male gender. Yes in a gender biased nation. My blog will start today and in 7 to 10 days I will put up all the facts with evidence. Let me also see as to how many people stand by truth or take pains to see that truth gets Justice.....
In my case my daughter, Nupur (I gave her this name as I said I have one eye, my sister Payal and the other eye, my daughter Nupur and till today both are equally important for me) was very attached to me. Whenever I used to come from office she used to make me lie down and used to stand on my stomach and dance. If I did not allow her to stand on me then she would fight with me. When in the night she used to cry and I used to put my hand on her she used to feel secure and stopped crying. My ex-wife Rajani, mother of Nupur, used to beat her when she cried at night as she used to feel very annoyed when her sleep was disturbed. I cannot forget my birthday of 17.8.2005, I was in tense mood due to some business problem. In the evening my family wished me Happy Birthday.... My sweet daughter then aged little less than 2 sang "Happy Birthday" and continued "May God bless You..." I was in tears with happiness............ Our bond was so strong that whereever I had a meal during my 13 months of staying alone in Surat, all knew that I used to miss my daughter.....
After that I brought everybody from Mumbai to Surat and took a rented house. I was in a very bad phase of life with financial crisis not leaving me.... My house in Surat did not have any facility... yet I saw that my daughter went to the best school in Surat, though my ex-wife did not like it and she even did not go for getting the admission. It was me, my mother, my father and my sister who took care of each and everything in the life of Nupur... I should say my father, mother, myself and my sister all played the role of her mother... Nupur was always against her mother and used to fight with her as my ex-wife never gave her anything of the liking of the child and used to give cold food, whereas my sister and mother used to give her hot meals (she was Just like me who enjoys piping hot food and not cold food), cheese links, dates, almonds.... Infact I used to get whatever Nupur liked even in my tight budget. But in this process I never did anything wrong and from day one I never thought of having any luxury, if I owe money to any person. We believed in a debt free life..
Infact before going to Surat, in Mumbai, I used to remain awake entire nights for my daughter and used to take her in arms and just keep moving as she used to sleep on me holding hairs of my chest and me continuing to walk... My ex-wife used to say that I deserve to be called Nupur ki Mummy... Nupur loved the small toys ( 4 of them of Rs.10.00 each) which I bought for her and never used to play much with the toys given to her by Rajani and her family members. She liked everything I got for her and I do not know how she used to recognise whatever was brought by me and seperate it from others...
I remember when my Rajani's parents came to Surat and wanted Nupur to be with her. Nupur refused, but when I perssuaded Nupur, she agreed and stayed with them in the Hotel while I went to office..... that was the last time I say Nupur properly...
I am sure that after leaving Nupur's soul may have longed for her father. During that period I did not call up Nupur as I did not want her to cry for me. I talked with her after 6 months and over phone in 2 minutes she told me PAPA MAIN AA RAHI HU AND RAN TOWARDS THE DOOR....
My in-laws made me sign divorce papers afetr obtaining signatures under threat to life of my family.... I did it for my family.... Now till today I have not been allowed to see Nupur. Her identity has been changed to "Vachi Saraff" ...
I ask the entire society... can a child of 3 years demand justice... does she know her right... can my ex-inlaws play fraud and hijack her identity.... change her... put her to identity crisis... who is she... Vachi Saraff or Nupur Murarka.............. who is her father... Siddharth Murarka or is she an Orphan..... who will give her justice....... Has she no right to know and have love of her father and paternal family.... Is she a commodity....
Custody is the right of a child to be with the parent who can give the child the best welfare and no parent has a right to take or give custodyyy.... So I as a father cannot take her right and give the custody to her mother if the welfare is more with me.... for a parent it is a responsibility.....
Well who cares.... ek bachha hai... kya hua... Ma hai Na.... Its not my child, then why should I care.... why protest..... But remember tomorrow it can be your child... your brothers child.. anyones child..... so who cares........
Can society change... can society call upon for justice... can you protest... can you fight for the rights of a child... Nupur is not alone, there are many and numbers will rise of children who have fathers but are still fatherless.... who's rights have been violated and society has kept quiet... and this scar will continue to haunt for life.... A precent can be set.... but who will... why??? I have no answers... do you haveee..MAY BE A UNITED SOCIETY CAN....
A painful father for an equally painful daughter
siddharth murarka
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Just the way, a child needs a mother, same way, he/she also needs a father. Had there been no requirement of a father, nature would have made sure that children were born to human beings without procreation.
ReplyDeleteKeep posting and fighting...needless to say that we are with you. Internet is more powerful than the justice system...and one day Nupur shall know the truth as well. But also keep in mind that this is less about you, your ex and us...it is about Nupur...Anurag.
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